It’s Not About the Knife and Fork

Many times in this blog I’ve written that etiquette isn’t about the knife and fork; it’s about the way we treat other people. Most people get it. Some don’t.

When I was ten years old my family took our first return vacation to England. Of course we had to see the changing of the guards at Buckingham Palace. We arrived very early (thank you Mum and Dad for my early arrival compulsiveness!) and were standing directly in front of the black iron gates. I did what most kids do – I stepped up onto the two foot high concrete base of the fence. Within seconds I heard my mother, “No Love. You’re already in the front. Think of those behind you.”

A woman I knew many years ago attended a concert lecture series on her half-day off. Several of the women attending liked to knit during the combination concert and lecture. One day she told us that the conductor relayed that he had received several complaints that the clicking of knitting needles was distracting and interfering with the enjoyment of the series by some of the other attendees. He asked that they stop knitting in his series. Her statement to us: “I like knitting during this concert/lecture; my needles don’t make a noise and I’m not stopping.”

Most people get it Some don’t.


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7 Responses to It’s Not About the Knife and Fork

  1. karenhickman says:

    How sad. I can only imagine what else this person does out of a sense of entitlement.

  2. Indeed!
    Always appreciate your comments Karen.

  3. Karen says:

    If people care enough to complain ( its not often people do ), it should give you a reason to rethink your preconceived notions.

  4. Wow. Talk about self-focused. I was at a ladies lunch for eight yesterday and one of my table mates took two calls on her cellphone while we were seated. Yes, really. Sitting at the other end, I wasn’t close enough to quietly offer a suggestion on where to duck out to grab privacy. It was awkward. I sure didn’t want to raise my voice above the bustle and come across as chiding. Still wondering what I could have said.

    • Most of us are stunned by the inconsiderate acts of others. Unfortunately these people need to have it explained to them – subtle suggestions or body language aren’t strong enough messages. If they only realized they’ll be remembered for this type of behaviour.

      • I think this one is behind me. Next lunch, I can suggest before we start that we all put our phones away. Hopefully it makes the point without someone feeling singled out among the others. Being in interest clubs is tricky.

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